I am bursting at the seams to get to the twists and turns of The Fall. It includes copping out, mesogeny, temptation, sin, a curse. It is intriguing, tantalizing…..but still not something I and any readers out there can appreciate if they do not know one other important factor on how things ought to be through the marriage perspective. It is through seeing the joining and ongoing purpose for Adam and Eve that we can appreciate better how marriage should be and how The Church is to understand the example of The Bridegroom laying His life down.
And the rib that the Lord God had taken from the man he made into a woman and brought her to the man.
Adam, and any husband should see a wife as a gift. God did the work and brought her to you. She owes her existence to her Creator and not your good graces. Husbands, there is a God and you are not Him.
Then the man said,
“This at last is bone of my bones
and flesh of my flesh;
It is not God’s design for marriage for one of you to reject the other. You should accept one another as gifts from God who minister the Sacrament of Marriage.
this one shall be called Woman
for out of Man this one was taken.”
There is a bit more richness that I would like to address here. A tool of interpreting scripture is in seeing how the “new covenant is hidden in the old and the old is revealed in the new.” With that in mind we can look to what Romans refers to as the second Adam, Jesus, when He was on the cross. After He died the side was pierced and water and blood flowed out. Those elements symbolized the giving of Jesus to His bride, the Church, in the sacraments of the Eucharist and Baptism. Where this connect to Adam, and any husband, is that you especially are called to lay your life down for your wife as Christ did for the Church (Ephesians 5).
Therefore a man leaves his father and his mother and clings to his wife, and they become one flesh.
The next interpreting tool is to remember when you see “therefore” to look for what the therefore is there for. If there is no understanding of grace and freely giving of yourself in marriage, then you are really just a child. “When I was a child I thought like a child and spoke like a child”. A side note that comes with that is that a sign for consideration of a marriage to be null could be the lack of leaving ones mother and father. The Catholic Church is considering making this an official thing added to how they decide marriage annulment where someone is far too tied to their family of origin. Why? Because how can you cling to each other if one is keeping a foot in the door of their family of origin?
But if the partners if marriage step up to that which is on each side of the “therefore”, vulnerability can be attained and maintained. And in this world we live in where there is a reality of original sin and personal sin. But whether it is owning up to our failings to God, a spouse or even a friend we can be vulnerable if we return to that perfect love that pushes out fear (1 John 4) then we can get away from fear that feeds into the narrative of rejection and truly be intimate in the way we are designed. In review:receive one another in grace, give in grace and respect the stage in life you are in regarding those relationships. What is stopping us? What is waiting for us?
And the man and his wife were both naked, and were not ashamed (Genesis 2:21-25).