Unreasonable expectations in any relationship can be detrimental. We can expect to much of others before the fact and when someone does not meet our expectations, a burnout in commitment can happen. Reasonable expectations and even right boundaries are essential for the relationship to flourish. When there are spontaneous and unreasonable expectations initiated by one party of the relationship to the other, the person imposed upon can feel rightly offended and anything but loved. In fact, that second person could feel like an object and less than appreciated for their dignity.
Then the devil took him to the holy city, and made him stand on the parapet of the temple, and said to him, “If you are the Son of God, throw yourself down. For it is written: ‘He will command his angels concerning you’ and ‘with their hands they will support you, lest you dash your foot against a stone.’”Jesus answered him, “Again it is written, ‘You shall not put the Lord, your God, to the test.’” (Matthew 4:5-7).
What is implied here is that Satan wants Jesus to presume a rescue as if God the Father was at his beck and call. To have that much personal power is a common pattern that appeals to humanity’s drive to have formulas and dictate the way things ought to be. This is instead humility before the God of the universe. We can walk by faith of what God the Father says and thus act but not act so that God reacts. God initiates in principle for the relationship and humanity responds. Christ in his humanity shows us an example to know the difference.
Then the devil took him to the holy city- – Jerusalem was the center of God’s kingdom. Satan would have Jesus think that being there should include an experience where holy things are about to and must happen because religious settings are an end in themselves. Yes, some places are holier than others, but God is spirit and those who worship him in the age to come will worship him in spirit and truth. In a contemporary context, when we go to any church we can fool ourselves that whatever we can make of ourselves there lacks a need for to examine ones conscience. With the wrong mentality we can be in the churchy moment and think too much of ourselves. A better informed conscience of a Christian views church as not an end but a means to an end. Such a view keeps a pure religion and sees holy things in their right context and approaches those holy things in a response of humility and not a reaction based on assumption.
made him stand on the parapet of the temple- – Some of this is a mystery that the Son of God would be “made” to stand anywhere. But what is important here is in a fundamental question people ask of themselves: Am I good enough? The temptation to Jesus is that he needs a coming out party to be fully realized. But in Jesus, we see him growing first in favor with God and then man (Luke 2:52). We also know that Jesus “did not regard equality with God as something to be grasped” (Philippians 2:6). If Jesus took glory from the Father then he would be making himself the show and the temple all the more a marketplace of personality. The irony is that Satan was almost trying to counterfeit the glory of God that had come in a cloud over God’s temple in the time of Solomon. Jesus was instead anchored on the glory of the Blessed Trinity to be manifest in the true, providential time. The believer in Jesus can likely be grounded in the hope that at the end of ones life one can have fulness in knowing Christ. In our lives there will be temptations to receive improper promotions or at improper timing. Wisdom born of humility knows the difference.
You shall not put the Lord, your God, to the test- – In the heart of this quote Jesus uses is to not objectify God and have him under ones convenient measurement. To test God is to treat him as an object. The Holy Trinity consists of three persons with will and passions and are subjects to be respected. They are not incidental conveniences and thus Jesus collaborates with the other members of the Holy Trinity and does not presume on the relationships. What is implied in the quote is an understanding with “your God”. It shows balance between familiarity and respect. It is to take God on God’s terms and that is enough. And if that is instead our test of ourselves then that is the truth and is fitting we affirm it.