In any worthwhile relationship there will be moments of trust to the other as truly wishing the good of the other. In relating to Jesus, it could be complicated to do both. To have a fitness of the relationship with Jesus is a surrender to grace in full. Case in point, Mary who is full of grace, would be an example for the new disciples to see that exactly. Also what we will see is that her relationship was full of grace as well.
On the third day there was a wedding in Cana in Galilee, and the mother of Jesus was there. Jesus and his disciples were also invited to the wedding. When the wine ran short, the mother of Jesus said to him, “They have no wine.” And Jesus said to her, “Woman, how does your concern affect me? My hour has not yet come.” His mother said to the servers, “Do whatever he tells you.” Now there were six stone water jars there for Jewish ceremonial washings, each holding twenty to thirty gallons. Jesus told them, “Fill the jars with water.” So they filled them to the brim. Then he told them, “Draw some out now and take it to the headwaiter.” So they took it. And when the headwaiter tasted the water that had become wine, without knowing where it came from (although the servers who had drawn the water knew), the headwaiter called the bridegroom and said to him, “Everyone serves good wine first, and then when people have drunk freely, an inferior one; but you have kept the good wine until now.” Jesus did this as the beginning of his signs in Cana in Galilee and so revealed his glory, and his disciples began to believe in him. After this, he and his mother, [his] brothers, and his disciples went down to Capernaum and stayed there only a few days (John 2:1-12).
They have no wine- One sign of a close relationship is if few words need to be spoken to communicate a need. In approaching Jesus in ones personal relationship with him, one does not have to be wordy. Mary knew there was no need.
Woman, how does your concern affect me?– – The appearance in wording to Mary may seem dismissive to the modern eye and that Jesus is admonishing her. A historical approach shows actually that Mary’s access to Jesus was very blessed. As for “Woman”, it was actually a term of endearment. The Greek word for woman was gune. That word was used by Augustus to Cleopatra and Odysseus to Penelope by Homer (Steve Ray, St. John’s Gospel: Bible Study Guide and Commentary; Loc 1305 Kindle).
The next part is better translated with the understanding it was an idiom. It was “What to you to me”.
When the idiom is used in response to a person’s request, either stated or implied, the speaker sometimes capitulates to the expressed will of the other (2 Kings 3:13) ….Jesus complies with Mary’s request, and Mary herself appears perfectly confident that Jesus will respond favorable to her petition. In affect, Jesus would not have initiated the miracle at Cana, but neither does he refuse his Mother’s prompting (Ignatius Study Bible).
This means there was nothing separating them which sets the stage of her understanding that the gravity of her request.What is about to be explained to her is that what is about to transpire will be her getting her wishes but her petition would go beyond that miracle to the relationship getting much more complicated: in the way of the cross.
My hour has not yet come– – Jesus makes a statement that could be taken as a no, but his action in a moment speaks louder than those words. In his words Jesus leaves room to the appointed time that all is set right. Yet here could be considered an hour where life is not the same again. Jesus speaks to Mary on the significance of this intercession in that if there was any apparent wiggle room for him to go back to being a locally known carpenter it would be blown out here by his agreeing to her request. If actions speak louder than words, this miracle would be like an naugural speech. When we ask anything of Jesus, our consciences should be informed of the significance of the interaction. The mark of change is continual when we ask for God’s intervention and we should be prepared for that in taking up ones cross to follow Jesus. Mary was prepared for this 30 years prior when an old man prophesied to her that, “a soul will pierce your heart as well”.
Do whatever he tells you– – I keep coming back to this verse which bears repeating because humanity can fall into the mistake implied. “Consequently, from now on we regard no one according to the flesh; even if we once knew Christ according to the flesh, yet now we know him so no longer (2 Corinthians 5:16). Not to say that Mary was repenting, but she had to appropriate her faith to a new level regarding Jesus in that from this day forward, her experience of Jesus would have to be outside of a default box of her known life. It is not up to her what happens this hour and so she endorses the will of Jesus with a God-inspired openness. Her faith in requesting and responding works as a catalyst of God’s work on the cross. Here Mary takes her hands off Jesus and released him to the world.
six stone jars there for Jewish ceremonial washings– Augustine saw a symbolism in the six jars being symbolic of six ages of God doing something unique. I would lean more on it being a matter of the six covenants that God had made in the Old Testament with Noah, Abraham, Moses, David. They all were initiated in grace by God. And if one sees the significance of stone materially, remember then that stone does not get stained. Thus perfect for ceremonial washings. The beauty of this is one could propose that there were six jars but seven vessels. Jesus was that seventh vessel of grace that fulfills the intent of the first six. Seeing this through the lens of the Old Testament, we can appreciate how God directed a momentum of covenant in His dealings with Israel. In fact, the word in Hebrew for making a covenant was to “seven ones self”. Three years later Jesus speaks of a new covenant when he lifts up another supply of wine and declares it the blood of the new covenant. As miraculous as the wine was about to be, it was a spiritual foretaste of the cup of the covenant.
as the beginning of his signs– – For those who examine the miracles of Jesus that are specifically described, there are teaching implications that must be considered. The actions of Jesus speak as infused messages that due to the meaning and power them make the grey harder to turn to. The signs point to objective and inconvenient truth to surrender to or deny.
and his disciples began to believe in him– – The longest time of discipleship represented in this group was a whopping 5 days by this point. To see Jesus as a nice option and a nice guy does not cost anybody anything. But with “believe” being a pregnant word in the gospels with faith and works bound together, one can see that decisions were made that day to simply do whatever Jesus tells them to do just like Mary said. Those who obey Jesus are not just receptacles as an end but vessels to share salvation to the world. That was them. That can be any of us if you decide to take up your cross and follow Jesus. This is the divine romance. For Jesus begins here to begin a courtship with the world.